This past week I decided to finish reading my book, The Magnolia Story, by Chip & Joanna Gaines because well, let’s face it…I LOVE THEM!! I love the kind of relationship they portray, I love that they are a hardworking, fun, driven couple that are strong in their faith. But as I was reading on, Joanna asked a great question that made me stop and think. She asked if she was just surviving or was she thriving in life. That is when I stopped to ask myself the same question, am I just surviving or am I thriving?
What does that even mean? Am I just surviving? Is that a bad thing? Can it be different everyday? So I decided to dig a little deeper and with a little help from Google I got to see what the real definition of surviving and thriving meant. To survive is to continue to live or exist and to thrive is to prosper, flourish and grow or develop vigorously.
I’ll be honest; I have a lot of days where I feel like I am just surviving as a mom, wife, friend, colleague & business owner. I’m only human and it’s normal to feel that way but it doesn’t make me feel fulfilled. It makes me feel like I just survived another day and I want more than that for my husband, my family, my village & myself. I want to feel like everyday I can thrive because if I constantly have the mindset that I am just “surviving” then that is exactly how my life will turn out.
It was no easy task but I had to change my entire outlook on how I responded to everything in my day-to-day activities. And realizing that being hard on myself, using negative self-talk and constantly thinking I am not good enough will only allow myself to believe these things that aren’t true.
While I’m still a work in progress I can tell you there is no such thing as “perfect” and honestly that isn’t something I want to be. I want to be the woman who thrives at life, home, work, with family, friends, my community and faith. I know that there is no reason to be so hard on myself because I am doing the best I can. I know that there is a lot to learn in life and I fully intend to learn & live while I am here on this earth. So I decided to change my mindset, approach my daily happenings and ask myself before I react, “Is this a thriving or surviving response.”
In addition to shifting my mindset I also decided to set some obtainable goals every month to help me feel like I am thriving in life. It holds me accountable and keeps me driven so I don’t lose sight of what I want in life and for those things I can’t, God can and that is something I just have to keep in my mind and heart.
And if you are reading this and asking yourself the same question… Am I just surviving or thriving? Know that you are not alone, you are uniquely and beautifully you and you are strong as a MOTHER!!
Now, I want you to take a moment and think of 3 goals to help you feel like you are thriving in life. What would they be and how would you live your day to day to obtain them? Go on give it a try J